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And I have a big pile of old bread, chard and onions at home just waiting to be made into a panade. Thank you, Luisa!

Oh, I feel you on this post. I entertain a lot and sometimes my very best efforts don't measure up to the dream menus of my imagination. I can't say I've ever lost my appetite, but have definitely complained about my own cooking for days afterward.

I think a "greatest hits" approach helps. Too often I experiment with new recipes when throwing dinner parties, and that can go either way. At the very least, tried-and-true recipes keep you from getting nervous about screwing something up.

Sometimes I come up with wonderful menus by thinking about what I would like to eat in a restaurant, as if I was going out that night instead of having 5 people over. It's good exercise when I'm feeling uninspired.

Clearly I think about this stuff way too much!

be still my heart! another blog post so soon! I'm getting very spoiled. :)

I know exactly what you mean about "dinner party food," which is why, several years ago, I came to a similar realization and just started making food for parties that I like to eat regularly (maybe plus that little extra something frilly, depending on the occasion). but regardless of the occasion, this panade looks absolute delicious. can't wait to try it out myself next weekend.

Thanks for bringing this issue up. I have also had that nagging feeling before and its such a let down. Especially when, like you, I've spent soo many countless hours trying to create the perfect menu and the perfect evening. Its possilbe that quest for perfection is what takes me away from just cooking those things that make you want to not share at all, those dishes you adore beyond explanation. And thanks also for reminding me of panade. I've made a couple versions of this before (love that cookbook!) and am always smitten. I'm making that right away!

Ever since you mentioned this panade a while ago, I've been making it every week, the first time when I was feeling pretty low and it never fails to lift my spirits. Just like your posts! So often I'm disappointed with what I cook, even if others like it and I think it's normal after slaving over a hot stove for hours, smelling and tasting it. I try new things but keep it simple now, even when I have people over.

I've started doing the simple route, too. Not the time to start de-boning chicken when already frazzled over guests coming. Keep it simple.
I set out small lebanese style (and spanish) tapas before dinner.

You are definitely not alone on this one. I find that the more effort I put into a meal the less I want to eat it, I'll enjoy a little bit and will happily revisit the leftovers but the anticipation I felt while cooking somehow just vanishes when it's time to sit at the table. It's not the food so I guess it must just be that all my energy goes into the preparation, it's strange and pretty frustrating. Anyway, the panade looks like something I would happily make for two or for a crowd. I've been meaning to try one for too long now so I'll add it to my list for sometime in the next week or so.

You aren't silly at all about looking at the food and feeling out of sync with it. I remember Laurie Colwin's piece about going to a black-tie affair and assuming the food would be awful and then having a plate of delicious comfort food - beef stew, I believe - placed in front of her. She was sooooo happy.

I learned a long time ago to serve the food we eat every day to company because it's just darn good. I make chicken paprikash, spaetzle, green beans, cucumber salad, and Marian Burros' plum (or apple if the season isn't right for plums) torte for company all the time. AND I don't mind serving it to the same people again! So far no one's ever complained.

Last week I went to a new, hip, and written-up restaurant here in the City. I took one look at the (very) expensive menu and thought "There isn't one thing I want to eat; not one thing." I chose the simplest thing. It was well executed and delicious, but I found it off-putting to order something by default instead of trying to decide from many tantalizing options.

Can't say my attempt at panade was so successful. It was... slimy. Maybe I needed to use a shallower casserole pan and not a dutch oven. Or bake it longer.

I've had Zuni's chard panade on my list since Orangette posted it a while back.
I am doing a lot w/ chard these days, so this is a must!
I think your 1st dinner party sounds great. But the one for your mom and her friends sounds even better!

Chard + onion + cheese = a few of my favorite things. I need to try this -- I've never made panade before!

I love hosting dinner parties -- but even more I love having a potluck -- I get to cook and have fun, but it's also interesting to see what others bring. That way I don't get over stressed about cooking for 12 people and all their tastes!

That feeling you have sounds so familiar to me. I think I am more successful in preparing dinner for two of us. I just don't feel as comfortable when we have guests for dinner. I can't easily decide on the menu, and sometimes I have the same feeling as yours. Then at another time I invite my guests for another dinner which has a menu much more appealing to me.
As for the panade, it looks fantastic! I must buy some chard from the open market to give it a try.

Yes, I totally and completely know what you mean. We throw a lot of dinner parties and I always cook food I want and I STILL don't want to eat at the end of it all. Days of thinking about the food, days of cooking the food, makes me not want to eat the food. You are not alone! The timing here is terrific, I just took that book out of the library and this is one of the first things I want to make.

For dinner parties I usually spend time thinking about the guests and what will be practical to make-time constraints and not spending too much time away from guests. I only look at think about things I like so I don't usually have this problem.

Oh, Luisa, I love this post! I am such a disaster at "entertaining," and the worst thing about that is that each wobbly attempt makes you more skittish and likely to muck up the next. Actually, even when I have tried to serve our unfancy favorites they just don't come out the same when I'm offering them to friends. I think the solution to this problem is to have a couple of friends over for dinner at least once a week, but so far I have not found the energy to implement.

And the other feeling I sympathize with is not wanting to eat at the end of cooking. I haven't made anything ambitious enough for this to be the case in a while, but I remember the feeling well.

Now I recall that the first time I ever made this panade we had a surprise dinner guest. I worried that the texture would be too weird for him (I didn't know much about his tastes), but he loved it! Mmm, I need to make it again soon.

Luisa, Where in Paris do you stay?

I have never heard of panade but I can tell you I WILL be cooking it this week. Thank you for the post. I think you have the absolute right idea whe it comes to entertaining. Which we do a lot of. Familiar is always best. I adore your site and somehow it feels more personal this year. Thank You Luisa. B:)

The recipe sounds & looks wonderfully rustic & flavourful. And I am always on the look out for something new with chard...usually a bit of glut through winter. Re the dinner party I have certainly been there & I think you are right that you do need to cook what you want to eat.

the panade sounds so good...& the cauliflower soup... Thank you, Luisa!

Jenene - We stayed most of this last trip at a friend's, with three nights at Mama Shelter in the 20th, which was funky (for Paris). I can also recommend any of the traditional, small hotels in the 6th around rue Jacob (Marronniers, Angleterre, Deux Continents, etc).

I know that feeling exactly! The best meals are the meals we make just for us, because they are simple, what we really like and made in a relaxed state of mind. Dinner party dishes tend to be new recipes and made with a feeling of nervousness and the menu has always been thought about and discussed way too long. We should stick to waht we know and like. And experiment on our own.

What a great sounding recipe. I'll have to try it.

Oh and you're certainly not alone when it comes to loosing your appetite after having spent hours making food for others. I can't explain that feeling either, but it seems like all the effort is greatly appreciate by friends/family and guests, but I can find no joy in the food. I think on those occassions even my taste buds don't work normally, because when I do make myself eat, everything tastes kind of bland when I know it can't be.

I suppose it's the same thing same thing that compels us to wear uncomfortable high heels and slick on some lip gloss when we go out, we want to make it special.
But of course with food, tried and tested (and loved) is the best way to go.
It's good if you are "mature" and confident enough as a cook to let go of trying to impress. I still struggle!
Best results occur when my husband invites friends over for Friday night dinner and tells me a couple of hours before they turn up.

I have a feeling this is about to become my new favourite dish...

I couldn't agree with you more!
I used to try SO hard to make the most amazing meals for guests, then I learnt to chill out a bit (only took about 10 years to realise this was the way to go!!), and now I cook the meals that we have all the time.
The weird thing is that the simpler meals like the pasta bakes with home made bread, are enthused about much more, possibly because I'm more relaxed cooking them.

It sounds like your distaste with the meal could have something to do with the way you've made your passion your work. The release and freedom your passion offer you can sometimes becomes entwined in the routine of work, dragging you down with it; much like bloggers can start to feel like their lived experiences are just rough drafts of future postings.
Having said that, thanks for sharing that cauliflower soup idea, I picked some up at Lidl and wintered it up with some celeriac and truffle oil, heartwarming.

I understand your feelings about the meal you cooked up for guests. I sometimes find myself making a dish for my blog that I am sure my readers will love and then it languishes in the fridge never to be seen or heard of again. Maybe our resolution is to make dishes we know we will kove. Sure we will come across some failures but we will have eaten some very good meals in 2011.

Thanks so much for the panade recipe; I am trying to have something vegetarian for dinner at least once a week and this fits well into that plan as an option for a winter time vegie dinner main course.

I too have noticed that after cooking a fancy meal for guests that I have no desire to eat it. I have been thinking that it was because I was so familar with the food that it had lost it's appeal for me and there was no anticipation of eating a good meal left. But your post makes me think that other things could be coming into play also. My favorite kinds of foods are things that are a bunch of different foods are combined together in a dish, like a casserole or a stew, a stir fry, a salad made with vegies, protein, starches, dressing. And I don't usually do that kind of thing for company dinners; I do meals with protein, starch, and a vegetable or two sitting in piles on a plate.

This is my most-oft-made dish from the Zuni cookbook; I love how simple and comforting it is. I will say, though, that the texture might take some getting used to if you've never eaten this sort of thing (I noticed another commenter called it "slimy"...)

I really enjoy your blog and look forward to trying this recipe. I've added your blog as a link on mine, http://www.orangemadeleines.blogspot.com. Thanks for the inspiration!

Oh, this looks so lovely and yummy! Instead of dining in a crowded restaurant on Feb. 14th, I think we'll stay in and make this dish... it should chase the winter blahs away. Thanks for sharing this! :)

What a great post! I made the Zuni panade during the holidays, and my husband did not like it!! What a disappointment. He is not the bread person I am. Because I had a ton of it left, the next night I made the left-over suggestion that follows the recipe. That went over pretty well. I could even serve those leftovers to guests!

I know exactly how you feel. You try to impress and in the end feel defeated, eventhough everyone else seems to be enjoying it. I think for dinner parties going with what works and most importantly what invokes great memories of times surrounded by a particular dish is the best way to go, although I think I am a glutton for punishment, since I always find myself being daring for a dinner party! Looks amazing, I will have to try this recipe!

I know exactly what you mean! I've had that feeling happen to me so many times that I swear I know it's going to happen before I start cooking something -- I just feel.. off. So, I've learned to chuck any idea of cooking something new on those days (or the idea of cooking at all). The mood you are in, and the enthusiasm you have (conscious or not) for your food/recipe makes such a hige deal on how the meal turns out. I'm an atheist, and this is the closest I come to being spiritual, so I'm so happy to hear that someone else has actually felt this way!

Isn't it strange, the disconnect between the food we want and eat, and the food we feel we might feed our friends?

I had a dead-ringer of this experience recently, and could not decide whether it was a commentary on my friendships, my confidence, or my cooking. All of which are in quite fine condition, all by their lonesome. Perhaps they just need to chat it out.

Anyway. This is about exactly what I'd like to eat alone, and in good company.

Holy crap does this look and sound good. Can you suggest anything to serve it alongside of if preparing as a side dish?

I can relate to your plight, and no, you're not being trite! (didn't mean to rhyme there)
I've never heard of panade, but this looks like the best one dish meal I've ever seen. And I love one dish meals. Thanks for sharing! I can't wait to try this.

Lauren - a really spare salad with bitter greens and a sharp vinaigrette would be great alongside a big scoop of panade.

this is the best comfort food i've read about in a long time. (and i bet even better when shared with guests!)

I had all these ingredients on hand, so I made this last night and it was delicious! Thanks, Luisa!

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I really enjoy your blog and look forward to trying this recipe. Your images make everything very appetizing!

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Yes, the pictures are really wonderful; and panade is just so lovely, isn't it? I will have to try this one!

Sounds so familiar when I spend a lot of time cooking I end up not wanting to eat what I cook.
I am ashamed to admit I have never even heard of panade but have day old bread and inspiration. Thanks

Luisa,
I can't find piment d'Espelette that you dusted on the cauliflower soup.
Is it similar to cayenne or smoked hot or sweet paprika?

thanks,
Jennyi

OOPS, MY CORRECT INFO IS ON THIS ONE:

I agree and I think all cooks have the very same issue. I think that over time I have realized that what I get out of cooking for others is pleasure from a) the process of the preparation and b) the pleasure of giving the gift to others and seeing them enjoy it.
By the time I eat it, there are no surprises because I've spent so much time cooking it and thinking about it.
I used to wonder why my mother didn't really eat much dinner with the family, and now I understand why.
I do get immense pleasure from eating something great that someone else cooked!
I guess it gives a new perspective on " you can't have your cake and eat it too"

Keep up the great work!

Annie

Jenny - no, it's sort of its own fragrant thing. Can you find Aleppo pepper? That could be nice on top, too. Cayenne's too harsh for sprinkling, and I kind of feel the same way about the paprikas...But experiment! :)

thanks Luisa, I found Aleppo pepper at Central Market!

This looks like a wonderful recipe, but I wish that you would give the ingredient amounts in metric as well as American the way David Lebovitz does. Some of your readers live here in Europe.

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